Let’s choose our behaviour
“Effective actions depend on important decisions”.
We all dream about happiness. We were born with it. It doesn’t matter where we were born, our culture or religion, whether we’re rich or poor, beautiful or ugly. Everybody can be happy, because happiness is our natural state.
A deep knowledge of who we are as people is fundamental to live happily.
To work on our degree of identity, we have to find our place to be, regardless of any conditioning, situations in life that have turned into real dogmas, no matter if true or false.
Our identity is made of our beliefs that affect the way we act: being aware of our actions is fundamental.
We are so much affected by judgments and external interferences, that we should look at ourselves from the outside and describe the behaviors that influence our present identity.
Here is an exercise, very easy at first but a little more complex as you go through it. You can do it to improve the understanding of your identity. Take a sheet, a pen and jot down who you are: I’m a father, I’m a son, I’m an uncle, I’m a nephew, I’m an entrepreneur, I’m a sportsman. As you go on, you will notice that your self-definitions will acquire a deeper meaning…I’m a soul…I’m everything! That’s the answer of a friend of mine, of a student, of a mate in this journey called life. Such conclusions open the doors to endless possibilities, making any past decision meaningful and turning our new awareness into something to realize.
Our behaviors identify the path we want to follow.
Which of those behaviors you wish to quit to be who you really are? Which behaviors should your put more focus on?
We often act as we should, neglecting “How” we want to.
Identifying which behaviors must be changed because product of conditioning and match them with actions that really show who we really are is a way to understand what is really important for us. Along with our vision and mission, this will help our goals for success. Success is meant as the gradual realization of our ideals, it is therefore our self-realization.
Choosing our behaviors, with no obligations nor pre-assumptions, will improve our life and our social interactions, because we really feel natural, we are true to ourselves and to people.
Andrea
