The Ecology of Relations

Here’s a useful exercise to help people having talks whose focus is helping our speaker feeling better than before.

The “Ecology of Relations” also means healthy relations, which actually start from a personal well-being. When we approach someone we don’t like talking about issues that bother us, we end up having polluted relations.

They make us feel bad and we lose energy and our well-being. “Energy Vampires” is the most appropriate term for these people and how they act on us.

But, when we talk with people we love about issues we like, there is an exchange of energy and we also create a positive energy.

Usually, we tend to bring into a conversation our mental schemes, our mood and our thoughts. We can’t guess 100% what our speaker is really thinking about. One of the worst mistakes is building a dialogue on this premises. Keeping our thoughts clean and accepting other people’s ideas are the accelerating elements in a relational process.

The best thing to do is listening double than we talk. There are some conversations with people we already know, where we can talk and ask freely. We can use the power of questions to open up new chances and new horizons. These are useful to deepen the knowledge and the opportunities of collaboration from a professional and personal point of view.

But the point is: What do you expect from this conversation? What do you need to be both satisfied at the end of your talk? What is the demand to be met?

These questions are a helpful exercise: start doing it with the people you already know, to train yourself for future conversations with strangers.

The secret, once again, is listening and making questions useful for our speaker. We have to make ourselves available to other people, to understand his/her feelings, goals and expectations.

Relation is Energy, use it wisely! ANdrea